As a little girl, I read stories that painted love so perfectly that I always dreamt of how beautiful it will be that day when my prince will come and steal my heart away.
I constantly dreamt of my “happily ever after” with my Prince Charming until I read Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. Chai! All my love dreams were shattered and then I suddenly dreaded even the thought of love. “If their love was so true and beautiful, why did they both have to die?” I never stopped asking myself.
Then, Brick and Lace now came to spoil everything with “Love is Wicked”. The world has painted love in many awful colours. Love has become constantly associated with pain, sorrow and tragedy but in my experience, I have not so learnt love. I found out when I met the Prince of my heart that love is not pain.
Every moment I spend with him always floods my heart with peace and confidence. Yes! Confidence. I am sure of his love and his plans for my life. In his arms, I always feel protected and secure. He taught me that Romeo and Juliet is a fraud! With him, I learnt that:
“Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Love never faileth…”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (KJV)
I understand that we are human and we all have flaws but don’t resign to a life of frustration and pain in the name of love. God still has sons and daughters that can love you right. Loveth, it’s not okay if he says he loves you but he beats you blue and black at the slightest provocation because love is not easily angered. Abi, Brick and Lace deceived you too? Abeg, love is not wicked jare.
Ife, you should not be quiet if he treats you like trash. Remember, an object is treated based on the perception of its value. You are worth more! Tife, be reminded that love is patient. If he cannot wait till you get married before unzipping his pants, I advice you to “piante!”. Girl, run as fast as your legs can carry you.
Titilai* is a very long time to spend in torture! Love yourself enough to walk away when you still can.
I have found love in Jesus and it is beautiful! And as far as human love is concerned, I would settle for nothing less than the peace and strength his love offers. When God writes your love story, it will not end with a poisoned sword neither will it end with a divorce or a child custody battle because when Jesus is truly involved, it always has a beautiful ending.
Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
*Titilai means forever